We have all been rejected at some point in time (even if you don’t want to admit it publicly). Be it in terms of that job that you really wanted or him/her saying no, rejection comes in all shapes and sizes; and what follows rejection is a period of long and emotional set-backs where everything that has ever happened to you comes back in a rush. This post is about facing a rejection and how we make it the end of the world.
Let’s talk about the most common form of rejection nowadays – the one you face in the battle of someone’s heart. Imagine falling into the depths of your emotions for someone. This particular someone is “not like others” that you have met in your life. You both start-off as good friends, get closer with the passage of time and then when you think that the time is right, you go in for the kill… But! That person says no. Either in a very friendly manner or straight-off in many cases. A big NO is what you get to hear. And then begins your downward spiral. You have never heard anyone say no to you before, you don’t know how to handle it. You go berserk. It feels like someone has taken something precious away from you. Know what that is? Your self-belief. But you don’t know this yet. You don’t realize that this is what you have lost and your ego comes into action. Then comes in the next phase where after all the emotional trauma, you decide to pick yourself up and repeat the same thing with someone else, and again you face a rejection. Tough luck? Maybe or perhaps a wrong decision fueled by the ego that was kicking in. For you, this becomes the end of the world as what follows next is a further decrease in your self-confidence.
After some time you eventually find someone who luckily has the same feelings towards you. Things go steady and to your surprise he/she says. But… Remember the rejection you faced in the past? That keeps on coming back to you. You keep thinking about it, over and over again. Thinking that this relationship will also end the same way. You can just feel it in your gut. There is this restlessness which just doesn’t go away, and after some time since you had continuously imbibed yourself with the idea, you start seeing problems in your relationship. Alas! This ends too. And while you are sitting there sipping your morning coffee, you convince yourself as to how horrible a person you really are and go about living your life in the shadows.
Now take a step back. Noticed the schedule of events that happened in this series? You made the first rejection such a strong force that it made itself the end of the world for you where you could have alternatively done something to let go of it. You have a choice here my friend. You can either let that rejection guide the rest of life and make things miserable for you or you break the cycle by learning to let go. It is difficult, yes I know. But it is equally important. If they rejected you, its their loss – not yours! Learn to live by this fundamental thought and you will be able to look at things from a different perspective and realize that its not the end of the world.